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Lighten Up Thursday: Obstacles of Success

For years and years, I killed my own potential. It wasn’t an oblivious action. I was very aware of what I was doing but there were three main elements that influenced my decision. This Lighten up Thursday, I’m going to tell you about my 3 obstacles of success and how I’m overcoming them. I also invite  you to share your own experience!

How do I Know What my Obstacles Are?

A few months ago, fellow blogger and young entrepreneur Veronica N. Davis talked about optimism and the key role it plays in success. She brought a up few obstacles of success and I took notes. What hinders your optimism? Take a moment and write out a list. I made my own list and tried to steer clear of the obstacles that are out of my control. For example, money is something that could be considered an obstacle but it can’t exactly be controlled all the time. Accidents happen. So I broke that down. What hinders the flow of my money? After some intense thought, I identified three major key points that make me struggle with remaining optimistic about my own success.

Problem #1: Fear. 

It sounds ridiculous but being afraid of success is very common for several reasons. many people fear success because of the question: “Will I make it?” Fear gets more complex than that though. You could fear loss: loss of money, loss of friends, etc. Fear runs deep and can hinder every form of progression you could ever work toward.

My Personal Solution:

Sometimes (And I know this sounds even more ridiculous) the best way to overcome fear is to face it head on. For me to overcome fear, I have to take changes and learn from my mistakes. Facing my fears have gotten me further than my fear ever did.

Problem #2: Excuses.

One of my biggest problems ever was excuses. It’s the first obstacle I ever successfully overcame. I used to feel like I always had to have a reason for everything and if I didn’t have a reason then I had to find one.

My Personal Solution:

Repeat after me. Some questions don’t have answers. Genuine curiosity is great but that does not mean that you have to feel pressured to come up with an answer when you don’t have one. Great alternatives are phrases like “let me get back to you,” and “I’ll see if I can get you answer for that as soon as possible.” Mind you, if you do know the answer and are just afraid that the person answering will be angry, say it anyway. Always be honest.

Problem #3: People who Hinder Success

takes this moment to pause my music and stare directly into you through the screen for five long minutes : People aren’t on the same level of skill as you just because you’re friends with them. Some of them are going to try to bring you down because failure and misery both love company. Sometimes, it happens accidentally too. It doesn’t matter. Success can be interrupted.

My Personal Solution:

Let. Them. Go.

I know, I know. They’re your friends. You’ve known them for xyz years. Let them go anyway! If they are not contributing to the positive in your life, they don’t even deserve access to the negative. Let them go. Better people will come along. These people will care. They will help you see the good in yourself but will also constructively build your character.

I insist you let poisonous people become their own demise.

These are my obstacles and the moment I stared working on solutions, I found the success began and flowed freely. I’m shooting more, writing more, and although I’m not perfect… the soul search for solutions has made a major impact on my life.

So, what obstacles of success do you face?

Make a list! try to eliminate the things you cannot change. Apply the solutions immediately. Don’t wait. Never hesitate to share either!

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Lighten up! Namaste.

 

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    Veronica N. Davis
    September 4, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    I heard the perfectionist arguing with the relentless. If that makes any sense. I’ll try to break it down: a perfectionist can’t handle failure, although another side of you won’t allow you to give up even if failure exists for you. Which it doesn’t. All of what you’ve accomplished up until this moment proves otherwise. That’s probably where excuses invite themselves in for me. It’s a defense mechanism to ward off failure, but it is actually the leading cause of it, man. Also, it’s hard to function around people who aren’t like-minded, especially while you’re building your brand and trying to help others simultaneously. It’s exhausting, so your #3 is definitely something I feel most entrepreneurs face. I deal with that as well. I kind of find myself focusing on my work, and my friends can never understand that passion. It’s a rough situation. It’s like, “I love you, but I’m fighting for my life right now because THIS is my everything.”

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