You can’t just.. Google “how to get people to love you.” Well. I mean, you can but you may get some terrifying results. Instead, I started thinking… What’s going to make people more comfortable with this crazy red hair photographer. The answer.. Find their weakness and a way to make them feel stronger and more comfortable about it. The biggest reason people said “No” in 2015 to me?
I would, but I don’t think I’m good enough for the camera.
How do I answer that? Well.. For 2015, my answer was:
“Okay, well if you ever change your mind, I’m always available!”
Which, I mean.. is a great answer, but it’s not gonna get people to fall in love with me. So. I decided on a new approach. If you’ve been thinking about booking a shoot, but it’s been a scary thought… I’m gonna share my first secret of the year with you.
Happy 2016 JDP Announcement:
I’m Scared Too!
“Pfft yeah right. Jasemine, you’ve been a photographer for 5 years and you’re afraid? I don’t buy it. I see pictures all the time.”
Did I ever tell you guys about that time I tried to cry my way out of my first boudoir session? I still look back on that and laugh. I was so scared. What will my mom think? What will the internet think? What will I think three years from now?
You see pictures I’ve taken with my camera–myself. Let’s call it the ultimate “selfie.” I cheat. I mean, I can’t help it. I set it up, and I’ve got the Canon T3i too. It has that dope swivel screen where you can see yourself while you’re taking the picture. I mean, I really hid from anyone who would take a picture of me. This year, I’m trying to change that. I want to see what other people think is my “good side”. I want to see how people who have been trained to capture beauty find it in me.
How Do I get Through My Shyness.
First: Get with a photographer you trust.
Technically, I’m still working on that part.. and cheating my way through. I train my photographers and call them ‘JDPCam.” Basically, I ask them to take pictures of me while I pose myself and let them choose angles. Later, I get into Lightroom, flag my favorites, edit them and bam they get to you. The beauty of trusting a photographer is that you cut out 95% of that. They’ll work with you, listen to your vision, and most of them will chose the ones that have you going “Yasss!”
I’ve watched some of my clients leave their first shoot with me and the only word I can use to describe the vibe is ‘salty.’ They wanted bigger, better, more sassy. A week later, they’re back. They’re in that location spot just slaying their freaking butts off. I’m impressed. At the end, I’m smiling. “This was even better than the first time–not to say that you weren’t killing it but what changed?”
The answer is always practice. Practice posing. Practice facial expressions, practice everything. I’ll do the face in different shoots to see when it works best because I need to know. I’m still getting used to not being angry.
Three: When in doubt, be someone else.
So.. Maybe I’ve been told by every photography I’ve ever met not to tell you this but I’m a rebel. You don’t have to always be you in a photoshoot. You can make up a persona, dress up, and change everything around you. Use your imagination. My best friend and muse Pokahontas cosplayed as a girl Jack Skellington. It sounds weird coming off the tongue but it got published in Pump Magazine and was like a major hit. All of our friends were proud of her and me and we were just sitting there like two Burton/Depp fans dumbfounded. We were just being nerds and BAM. Magazines.
Hell, that’s the entire concept of cosplay.
The moral of this story…
This year, don’t be afraid. Try booking a photoshoot. It doesn’t have to be with me. Just liberate yourself from the shyness and nervous feelings that come with getting in front of the camera. You may fall in love with it.
In the meantime, I’ll try to post more photoshoots of my own to get you really feeling like you’re not the only one overcoming shyness.
Next Saturday, I’m bringing back another ClaustroClothic and breaking down this outfit to you! I mean, you’ll literally know where I bought every single piece of it from and I’ll even give you links to buy your own. (That’s right. I’m giving out more secrets.) So, be right back here for some punk fashion goodness!